In the early stages of getting-to-know-you, everything you say is used to project what type of person you are. Use that vague question to give an intentional response, to share something about yourself that you deliberately want him/her to know. It says you are fitness oriented (you run), you’re the type of person who has sustainable relationships (you’ve maintained a friend for 20 years since college), and you’re an energetic, positive person (I’m great! ).”Obviously don’t make anything up (i.e., don’t say you went running if you really didn’t! For example, “Hey, did you happen to see David Letterman last night? For example, “Oh, I just realized it’s pm and I didn’t call my grandma yet to wish her happy birthday!), but proactively think of something positive about yourself that you want him/her to know whenever you are asked a mundane question.4. Don’t grill: Getting someone to talk about him/herself is not the same thing as peppering him/her with frequent or mundane questions. Don’t ask more than one question per minute (inject comments and reflections in between questions to minimize the quantity of questions, making it a real conversation, not Q&A session). He did the Top Ten Reasons for things overheard waiting in line to see Avatar…. ” Asking someone to guess something is a great way to flirt and keep things interesting. So sorry about that, I was really enjoying our conversation….Your first phone impression is a tricky mating stage that comes after exchanging emails online, but prior to meeting face-to-face.What I’m seeing as a matchmaker in this new dating decade of 2010, is that many first dates never happen because the guy or girl had a negative impression of you via phone.Compulsive phone checking is a drug dealer mannerism, and drug dealer mannerisms have no place at lunch with your mom, or at the movies with your friends or on a date with a cop.
I think technology has created a sort of entitlement problem.Note that I used the word “impression” because it’s not about who you really are: it’s about someone stereotyping you before they get to know you, based on little things you might say, or not say, that usually don’t reflect who you are deep down. After interviewing more than 1,000 single men and women for my new book, “Have Him At Hello,” I have 9 tips to help you shine on the phone:1.Use a Land Line: Try to speak on a land line whenever possible.If they're out with friends, or shopping or eating or doing errands, it might take a bit of time. But those people that take over 24 hours to reply... A text takes 5 seconds to send, and everyone has a spare 5 seconds (even if they have to send it while using the restroom, lol) I think technology has created a sort of entitlement problem.You send a text, you think you're entitled to an immediate response, on your time table.