Most of us applaud couples of any age or in any season of life who endeavor to go slowly in their relationships, because we understand that this commitment is both admirable and respectful.
As my husband and I mentor 20-somethings on a weekly basis, we find ourselves constantly telling couples: "When you think you are going slow, ?
These types are excellent manipulators and con-men.
If you’ve opened up to these sorts early on, they’ve gained a great advantage, because you’ve already taught them exactly what buttons to push.
I review lessons learned, brush off my shoulders, lick my wounds and begin again.
Most fundamentally, it’s about learning to appreciate and respect time.
The same thing can happen in a dating relationship.
If we aren't intentional about maintaining a safe pace, then by default we will speed.
An excellent book on how to do this, practically, is “How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk” by John Van Epp. It also protects the heart as individuals gauge whether they are good for each other.And it safeguards couples from pushing physical boundaries they may regret later. Don’t wake it up until it’s ready.” Although most singles desire for love to be awakened, based on this verse we shouldn't awaken love (or rush through dating relationships) because there is such a thing as “being ready.” In other words, there’s a "right time" for love.You wouldn’t let a stranger into your house and give them carte blanche with all of your stuff and you wouldn’t give them total access to your bank account, just because you thought they were attractive.So why do so many of us not take the same precautions when it comes to dating and relationships?