In the first decade of the twentieth century, men "called upon" young women whom they fancied by (with the permission of her parents) visiting her home.The two would spend time together, usually with the supervision of her parents so that they may get to know each other on an intellectual and emotional level.
I’m not to judge that one is better than the other, and mind you, my observations are based on my own experiences as well as a group of women I’ve interviewed in the last two years.The most that any such “advice” can normally do is perhaps to spare an occasional bruised feeling that might result from a minor misunderstanding.And where German and American cultures are concerned, the potential for culturally-based misunderstandings is relatively negligible, so if two people aren’t open-minded enough to try to work through such insignificant differences, the relationship doesn’t stand a snowflake’s chance in hell of surviving anyway.” However for most people whose sweetheart is German, a foreigner, there are plenty of cultural nuances and minor difficulties resulting sometimes in an alienation. Let’s listen again to Lynne, the expert in human relations in general and in relations with a German man in particular.You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play.American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation). European men don’t ‘date’ – in the formal way that Americans are used to.