After Silence is designed to help victims become survivors, and communicate in the recovery of sexual violence.Our mission is to support, empower, validate, and educate survivors, as well as their families and supporters.Knight in shining armor syndrome is what it's called. She's being honest, she isn't in a place where she can function normally in a good relationship and give to you because she doesn't know what a good relationship is.
Some forums can only be seen by registered members. The difficult thing is, all this has been revealed to me somewhat slowly, so by now, at this point, I'm fairly heavily invested in the relationship and the "in love" words have been spoken and meant.
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I have no idea why, but my past relationships sure have that theme in common. If all men just go "oh God, too hard" and disappear on her..does that work? Knight in shining armor syndrome is what it's called. She's being honest, she isn't in a place where she can function normally in a good relationship and give to you because she doesn't know what a good relationship is. You can only do so much and honestly if you truly want to help her then put your own feelings and any intentions you have for her aside until she is totally ready for a real healthy relationship, otherwise you won't stand a chance with her.
This is why her seeking counseling asap is crucial here and for now, stay in the friend zone, from a loving and kind place expecting nothing from her other than seeing her get well again. She in her own way has already told you she's not worth it.