Being straightforward saves this person mental anguish and wasted energy spent obsessing and overanalyzing your non-communicative behavior.This person is, after all, someone who wants to find love.
I wonder what the woman he is dating would think about his time with me. It is touching when people write to say my column moved them somehow.
In the first few casual dates, prior to any discussion of exclusivity or commitment, both men and women are guilty of blowing off a romantic interest.
Do you really owe someone a let down response if you’re only in the “getting to know you” stage?
After all, it doesn’t do any good to spend your time learning bad habits that you will only have to unlearn later on. We have a hard time assuming that perhaps the most obvious answer is the right answer because we grew up believing that the obvious answer was a trap of some kind.
But sometimes those sticking points aren’t where you think they are. You see, when you’re clever and you know it, you’re more likely to actually make things more complicated then they truly are. Clearly it’s too obvious, therefore there has to be something we’re not seeing…