Dating is exciting — but having cancer or having had cancer in the past can make the search for a relationship seem daunting. “Dating was hard and scary even before you had cancer, and all of those fears are probably still there after the cancer,” says Memorial Sloan Kettering clinical social worker Barbara Golby.
You may wonder: Am I ready to put myself out there again? “Only now you’re dealing with the fears and insecurities that come up as a result of cancer.”Those worries may look like a fear of rejection because of your history with the disease, body image hang-ups, and a more general struggle to regain your equilibrium after a frightening and draining experience.
The type of man I meet aren't the type that would worry about such things.it is never the reason why things don't go further. I can't see any reason why someone in our age group would not date a cancer survivor. (from someone who HAS crossed that street) I would really have to evaluate the situation if it ever came up in my life again.
I think that your illness is more in the forefront of your mind than it would be in a potential mate/date. I once dated a cancer survivor...every single flippin' chance he got he would refer to himself as a "transplant body"! This isn't the reason we're no longer together but it sure was annoying.
Though many cancer patients have the same questions and concerns, no two relationships are the same.
"--by cancer survivor Jasan Zimmerman about the complexities and challenges of dating after cancer and when and how much medical history to reveal during the process.
Founded by a cancer survivor in 2007, "C is for Cupid" is one of the first, and few, online dating services designed specifically for people whose lives have been affected by cancer.
The service is free, run by a handful of cancer survivors, and aimed at providing a comfortable and fun environment for members to connect with others who can "relate." As of March 2009, there are more than 1,000 members.
Sadly, she lost her battle and is no longer with us. Mine has helped me get through this whole cancer thing! I just realize I have to live in the present moment, live in the now, become the best me right now, and not worry about what will happen in six months, or a year. I'm so lonely, I just want someone to talk to who will understand what I'm going through.
I am 30, from GA, and looking for the love of my life. Check out 'C is for Cupid' - I think the url is cisforcupid.org, but it's specifically a 'dating site for cancer survivors.' I'm on there, have had some great discussions and sharing. I know if I do my best right now, I'll be where I want to be in six months. I know about being broken into pieces, I just live in the present moment now. I'm in NYC if there's any women out there from my location, I could really use a friend, it would be nice to have someone to talk too, someone to encourage, and for them to be an encouragement to me.